Be Your Own Drag Queen Fairy Godmother

I want a drag queen fairy god mother.

And I have everything in me to be my own.

Have you seen Dumplin’ yet on Netflix?

I was having one of those ‘not-so-creative-or-on-top-of-it-days’ and I decided to watch Dumplin’ at 1:30 p.m. on a Monday. Not my proudest moment… However, I’m damn glad I did it.

I’ll clue you in.

To the best of my ability, let me quickly summarize Dumplin’. Willow Dean (Danielle Macdonald) is a chubby high-schooler with a skinny pageant queen mom (Jennifer Aniston) who is living in her past glory days as a teen miss-whatever. Willow Dean is constantly brushed off by her mom because of her weight and lack of interest in the pageant. However, she was raised with an aunt who loved her for exactly who she was. The aunt passed away before we enter the movie but her role is important throughout.

In attempt to show her mom that the pageant world isn’t everything and to prove she’s just as beautiful as anyone else, Willow Dean joins up in the pageant to compete for Miss Teen Bluebonnet. The ups and downs of the pageant process drive her to find a Dolly Parton Drag Show where her aunt used to be a devoted patron. To reconnect with the legacy of her aunt. The following conversation between Willow Dean and her aunt’s friend, Dolly Parton Drag Queen aka Lee (Harold Perrineau), is by far one of the most impactful things I’ve heard in a while.

WD: “She used to help me thing through everything. […] and now I don’t really know what I’m doing.”

Lee: “You know…I never would have gotten up on that stage if it weren’t for your Lucy. She somehow knew that’s where I belonged. She knew it before I did. I bet you already know what she would say. We both do.

“Go big or go home, but either way, do it in a red pair of shoes.”

But you know, in all fairness it took Lucy a while to get all the way there, just like it does the rest of us. You know that Dolly saying?

“Figure out who you are, and do it on purpose.”

Now imagine if you just jump right in it. 10 giant steps forward. “Mother, may I?” “Yes. Yes, you may.”

“Mother, May I? Yes. Yes, you may.”

What if I really lived like that? What would happen?

I’ll tell you. I already know.

  1. I wouldn’t be afraid of pursuing my dreams of being a business coach. (Yes, I’m writing this and scared. You’re not alone in your fear.)

  2. I would sell photography & coaching more.

  3. I’d move to that new city I want to be in so badly without having to have it all figured out.

So, what about you?

Are you willing to be your own Drag Queen Fairy Godmother? Can you give yourself permission to be scared, to just jump right in it, and to fail?


If you can’t, let me. Shoot me an email and we’ll talk through it. I’ll give you permission. And then if you fail you can put it all on me. I can handle it.

But I don’t think you’ll fail. Ask me why.

Molly GoodmanComment